Sadness, shame, guilt, and feelings of being an “other” in motherhood often dominate me on International Bereaved Mother’s Day (IBMD). Now, do not get me wrong the mission of the day is one that is needed. In case you are not familiar, the purpose of IBMD is to honor mothers who experienced pregnancy loss, infant loss, or child loss. In our society, mothers who have endured this kind of tragedy are often forgotten or simply ignored because our grief brings on too much discomfort for others to handle. It is a day that bereaved mothers can take up space and remember their children who are no longer here on earth. But, this designated day can also be full of triggers and lacks the celebration component that mothers who have not experienced loss get to experience on Mother’s Day. My first two pregnancies changed the course of my life forever. In 2014, I experienced traumatic labor and delivery that resulted in the loss of my twin baby boys at 23 weeks gestation. Just a short 10 months...